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Title: Concerning Hammy
Post by: TrailMyx on July 09, 2014, 11:21:16 AM
A warning about the next post.

I know many of you come to this site to escape and have fun.  So if you don't want to read about sad things, I recommend you just not read any further.  But since it's my site...

I lost my little friend yesterday, and I find some comfort in others reading about it.  Plus, there's lots of people out there that go through this and there might be something here that might be helpful to others who may have to walk on the path I just got off.

I will update with some pictures in a little bit.
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: TrailMyx on July 09, 2014, 11:21:30 AM
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: Crome969 on July 09, 2014, 11:30:58 AM

My sincerest condolences about the huge loss of Hammy.
As Cat owner i can feel exactly how you feel.
No matter of humans or Pets, if you lost your soulmate, your friend, your follower, there arent any words wich can be spoken.
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: Pearls on July 09, 2014, 02:10:54 PM
This story brings tears to my eyes... The bond between a man and his friend animal is a strange one. Even though we do not speak the same language, we can understand one another by feeling, sensing, the other's state of mind. It is a beautifull thing. It makes me happy to know there are people like you out there caring.

The road you have endured wasn't an easy one. I'm sorry you had to part with a good friend.

Myself i have always been fond of cats. Since i was a kid i had a cat named Whiskey, a brown striped tiger-looking cat. God he was fat! Lol! My lazy little fat bastard which i loved so much. Dominant cat too. Then when i was still quite young the doctor said the cat's body was shutting down and that it would be better to put him down. We buried him in the backyard and the place still remains untouched with flowers planted around it.

Then a year or so later my sister had to give up her cat because she moved house. I'm still very good friends with this cat. My parents still don't grasp the special bond we share. If i call him out in the backyard, he always comes running within seconds. He's completely black with a little white spot in the front center of his neck.

I think that love is the only thing that matters. The rest just distracts us.

Don't believe you were selfish. Just like us, cats want to live as long as possible.
Take care Hamilton :)
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: Neo on July 09, 2014, 03:10:42 PM
I'm sorry for your loss TM.

Pets can be dearer to us than people, and the way you describe Hammy, I'm sure that's how you felt about him. I've always told my girl that our pets should live forever. They love us unconditionally, as we love them back. For me, it's like a parent/child relationship, only purer.

They are sincere, and will never do anything to harm us.

I'm sorry you had to go through this.

All of us here at scriptuo think very highly of you.

Although no words can really help to ease your loss, know that our hearts are with you in this time of great sadness.
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: _C2_ on July 09, 2014, 04:05:29 PM
So, sorry TM. Not a pet guy myself but I can see the bonds that close friends have with their pets and how they are family members. Thinking of you man.
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: Hoby on July 09, 2014, 04:50:53 PM
So sorry for your loss.  My girlfriend has over the last two years rescued 6 cats from shelters, four of which we have kept and the other two went to her parents.  It's amazing how different in personality each one is.  Hammy sounds like a pretty amazing cat.  My prayers go out to you!
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: Crisis on July 09, 2014, 04:53:59 PM
I am a dog person, currently we have 3 overgrown puppies in our family, but I can sympathize and feel your pain. Pets become part of the family and bring so much joy and happiness to our lives. I am very sorry for your loss and I truly hope this thread brings you some comfort. If you have some pictures, I would love to seem them.
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: dxrom on July 09, 2014, 11:10:16 PM
o7 Hammy.
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: KaliOfLS on July 10, 2014, 02:57:33 AM
I always thought I was a dog person.  And then I met my girlfriend who has two cats.  One is a Grey tabby who is just an amazing being.  They have personalities and they are incredibly affectionate if you are their Person.  I have lived with this cat for 4 years and he loves to be held by me in a certain way and only I can hold him like that.  He pokes me on the face in the morning when he wants me to get up and play with him (or feed him) and he stares at you when you ignore him, and then does something evil like knock over a glass of water.  Last year, my girlfriend noticed he was losing weight as well.  I couldn't tell and she felt a bump.  Sure enough, he had cancer.  We had it removed and thankfully he is okay.  My girlfriend is a vet technician, so she has been trained to spot these things.  I can't imagine having to have lost him in this year.  I empathize with you a great deal and hope you find some comfort in the fact that your friend would still be suffuring had you not made the hard decision.  I'll raise one up for your tabby.
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: TrailMyx on July 26, 2014, 09:25:24 PM
I posted a few pictures.  Sorry, a couple are ginormous.  One of my favs is the one where he's curled up in my lap.  That was when I first brought him home on day 1 - still smelly and everything.

Thanks everyone for the comments.  Much appreciated.
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: Crisis on July 30, 2014, 08:59:52 PM
I like the new avatar, it's a nice memorial!
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: TrailMyx on July 30, 2014, 09:05:15 PM
I like the new avatar, it's a nice memorial!

He still makes me smile.  The shaved belly was done back in December, but with all the chemotherapy, there wasn't much hair growing.  Even with all that was going on, he still had his goofball moments.  The avatar is one of them - he's just scooting along the base of the sofa.
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: Hoby on July 31, 2014, 03:34:24 PM
My gf's two cats do that, where they lie on their side and drag themselves around the couch by clawing the furniture.  Gf gets so mad at them! Ill have to post some pics of the other rescue cat, its a long hair and had knots everywhere so we had him shaved,  we did a lion cut on him, its hilarious! 
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: Gemviper on November 17, 2015, 10:29:29 PM
Sincerely not trying to hijack your thread, and I know it's a year old, and I had no intention of posting anything about this, until I read the pain in your words. I'm hurting right now too so...

I lost my grandma a couple of weeks ago, she was in her 90's and lived a good long life. She put on a clinic on how to finish off your days, never complaining about anything even though she was near blind, 100% deaf in one ear and 80% in the other, unable to walk for the last couple of months etc. The day before she died she did say "why is this taking so long" and that's about as much of a complaint as she'd ever give. On the day she died she had a lot of trouble staying awake and her breathing could best be described as "inconsistent and sputtering" as if she was just too tired to breathe. She opened her eyes at one point and looked me right in the eye and said "I've lived a good life, love each other and treat each other well, I love you" and she fell back to sleep and passed on an hour later.

She had all of her mind and wits intact until the very end and that's more precious than anything.

Warning: even when you know that time is short and it's 100% natural without any pain... it hits you like a Mack truck for days. You are not prepared, no matter how prepared you think you might be. The permanent nature of it grips you hard. There was one of the worst blizzards in my state's history on the day I was born but she drove to the hospital to see me, she counted 18 cars in the ditch along the way and could not see more than 5-10 feet in front of her. I mention that because you only get a very small number of people in your life who would do that out of pure love and losing one hurts, a lot.

Take some time and spend it doing something with loved ones(yeah, cats count) because in the end everything else is trivial and unimportant in comparison.

disclaimer: this was written through blurry eyes, your story with Hammy is touching, we all eventually have to face a situation that is hard that way. Focus on the positive, remember the good, that's what they would want. I'm not even half way to 90 and realize that health comes in a close #2 to spending time with loved ones... take some time off the comp and get some exercise too!
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: TrailMyx on November 18, 2015, 08:42:49 AM
Hi Gem, I'm sorry to hear about your loss; your Grandma sounds like she was a wonderful person up until the very end.  I plan on going out being a pain in the ass to those who love me, so how she managed it was pretty classy.  :)

Pets, humans, whatever can all be considered family and so it's always going to be devastating regardless of what people think.  My poor girlfriend just lost her beloved little cat a few weeks ago and she's never really gone through the loss of a close family member.  We had been bracing for it because he's been sick, but it was still much harder on her than she ever expected.  So it's good to talk about it and share your feelings with people around you that care or are even just willing to listen.

The pain does finally subside, but even today I'll get myself sad remembering the days leading up to the end.  But it helps to remember all the good times and try to bring those forward to help you heal.  I even made this little tribute to our most recent departed creatures on Rebirth. They are spiders now.  :)
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: Neireid on January 29, 2017, 03:46:33 AM
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: TrailMyx on January 29, 2017, 08:47:11 AM
Hello Neireid!

Yes it's very hard to lose your little friends, especially when you finally have to make the decision for them and after you've worked so hard to help them survive.  I totally sympathize what you're going through now.  I actually found a new friend fairly soon after I lost Hammy.  I finally decided that the years of happiness that you garner through that relationship is worth the inevitable things you have to deal with at the end.  

So for me, I'm happy that I got my new little friend.  His name is Henry (I kept the name from the shelter).  He was a problem cat and had to be returned from the previous adopters because he didn't get along with their child.  Originally he was a skinny somewhat lighter version of Hammy, but he reminded me of him.  I wanted to try and help him when it was probably the end of the line for him otherwise.  After 2 years, he's mellowed greatly and has turned into a wonderful little cat and is my constant shadow.

I remember right after I lost Hammy, I was in the same mindset as you are.... "NEVER AGAIN!".  That pain and energy lost as you go through that seems insurmountable.  But it does get better, and I'm now glad I made the choice and adopted again.

I'm actually going through this whole thing again; my white cat is suffering from renal failure, so he's slowly dwindling away.  I have daily sub-cutanious fluids I have to administer to help him manage.  But we do what we have to do for our family and critters.  

Even after all that, my advice to you is go out and find yourself another furry companion and enjoy the 98% of the time.  Try and not think about what you KNOW will inevitably happen.  Just reflect back on the joy you got from the rest of the 98%.
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: valen2.0 on January 29, 2017, 11:27:00 AM
Currently fearing about going through this now to be honest. Mine and my Girlfriends cat is 14 years old. Which from what I read is rather old. She doesn't act the same as she used to. She is extremely vocal now and appear to be having bladder issues. We have taken her to the vet multiple times but, the vets say there is nothing wrong.

I can only imagine how you feel now considering it has truly happened to you. I really don't know what I will do when our kitty is gone. She is always in my lap when I am playing UO or watching tv, you name it.

So sorry TM
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: TrailMyx on January 29, 2017, 11:54:48 AM
It's all good honestly.  The white cat is doing OK at the moment as his blood values hover from OK to pretty crappy.  Unfortunately it looks like he's going to require SubQ for the rest of his life, and that's a pain when it comes to things like vacations and even being away for more than a day.  This is my 3rd cat to suffer from renal failure, so it's getting pretty routine sadly.  I'll take him into the vet this coming Friday to see what daily 180ml injections of SubQ does for his kidney levels.  I might even do a YouTube video of how I administer them just because there's ZERO demonstrations of how I do it. (easy for person living alone)
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: valen2.0 on January 29, 2017, 12:00:26 PM
I had to help my dad with his cat give SubQ fluids. I would be very curious as to how you do it alone. It was hard enough with us.
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: TrailMyx on January 29, 2017, 12:16:51 PM
I'll definitely put something together then.  I struggled with it for years, but over time I've come up with a pretty easy method that lends itself nicely to solo administration.  It all depends on the mannerisms of the cat too, fortunately the white cat trusts me after the initial hissing. lol
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: Wiper on January 30, 2017, 09:18:39 PM
Very Sorry to hear of your loss. I know from personal experience pets are family.
We have 2 now after our first cat Pepper passed on after 19 1/2 years it was very hard to say goodbye.
Your have our deepest condolences.
 
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: valen2.0 on January 31, 2017, 07:15:28 AM
Just let me know when you put that stuff together. ill share it with my dad as well.
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: TrailMyx on January 31, 2017, 08:04:53 AM
Very Sorry to hear of your loss. I know from personal experience pets are family.
We have 2 now after our first cat Pepper passed on after 19 1/2 years it was very hard to say goodbye.
Your have our deepest condolences.
 

It's actually sneaking up on 2.5 years for Hammy.  I like that this thread has become something of a way for people to tribute their own losses.  I never used to take the pet loss thing all that seriously until I started losing my own critters, so I'm a changed man.

Just let me know when you put that stuff together. ill share it with my dad as well.

I will; I need to do it soon while the white cat is still relatively pliable.  He's been feeling better and getting a bit harder to manage.  But I suppose it's good to have what really happens.  I guess I'll wait until my girly gets back from the Phillipines so she can be my camera woman.
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: DieselKush420 on June 18, 2023, 05:09:12 PM
I'm sorry for the loss of hammy. i am not a pet person but everyone i know has a cat or dog and they are the same to these people as there own family. sorry again for the loss
Title: Re: Concerning Hammy
Post by: TrailMyx on June 21, 2023, 07:27:12 AM
I'm sorry for the loss of hammy. i am not a pet person but everyone i know has a cat or dog and they are the same to these people as there own family. sorry again for the loss

It's been a while now but I still think about him all the time.  I've had lots of pets in my life, but he did certainly leave an impression on me.  Some people don't get that a pet really can become a close family member. I've had some maddening conversations with people who just don't get it.  They must just be robots.  lol