Actually, I just checked the Verizon website, and they started pushing this update out on the 27th. So I need to be a bit patient. 
I want that new JIT compiler!!!
Yeah they started pushing it out....from what I have managed to find out is that it is going exceptionally slow. Like 1 in 100 phones at this point has gotten it.
Apps...I like Advanced Task killer, Yelp (Food and reviews), Shazaam, Quadrant (benchmarking), Wireless Tether (root needed), PDAnet (no root needed....still have it on my phone anyways but replaced by Wireless Tether functionally), Wifi Analyzer, Quick Boot (root required), IMDb, Facebook, Fandango, Pandora, Incredilight (2.2 comes with flashlight app...incredilight requires root). That covers the basics of what I really like. Didn't mention google stuff....maps, latitude, talk, gmail (think all those are included stock anyways)...but are a must!
Widgets...just use the stock clock from HTC and Pandora....oh and Advanced Task killer....not a big widget person.